Sacrificing Hapiness for a better self and life

What you lose by sacrificing, but gaining more in return

Becoming a better version of yourself

Gaining more in life by sacrificing happiness!

My doze of happiness

I don't believe that we are, what we are! I also don't believe that you can get all the best things in life at once. What I do believe is that, by sacrificing we can be better and we can have the best things in life. Some people may not agree with me, but I do  believe that by sacrificing early in life, later on, things wouldn't be so hard at all.

Everyday, is a  struggle to live and everyday is a blessing to share and to fulfill. I am now again in a mood to write some stories of my life.

As I turned 30, I realize how much I gain (literally) and loose, it was a self defeating habits and I realize that the more I sacrificed and faced the pain of change, the more I learn and the more I gain afterwards.

My everyday living is mundane and can be too boring for others, but the mental, physical and emotional challenge that I face is what I learned that I can be something far greater than what I am yesterday. I can become my thoughts and emotions, that is why I learned to sacrifice little things so that it can become big things in the future. (Don't blame me on smoking, neither of us don't know how to quit easily.)

As I end my blog in gaining more by sacrificing, I would like to share that all the pain that I have felt and that is in my heart, I offer only to the souls in purgatory. Why? Because I do believe that the little sacrifices that we made each day would uplift them and would help them to ease the pain. May our little sacrifices help them to be with our creator and in the end, may they all be with us.

I gained more in life because I felt the pain of what it is to be nothing, and what it is to be so different from the others that they wouldn't understand the pain inside. Let it help us to be kind, gentle and brave to accept things that we cannot change or to accept things that is meant for use.

WE ARE ALL BUILT TO FULFILL A DESTINY- B.G
  

Asking Forgiveness

Over coming heart ache from the past through forgiveness

Forgiving myself and others through time

As a child, I have been afraid and has a very low self worth. I had made mistakes in my life that I only truly understand when I was a young adult. I had hurt many people unintentionally and I am too arrogant to  face myself. In fact, I am not like other people who had found their selves early in life. I only started making peace with myself when I was 25. It took me a long time to accept who I really am inside; It took me a lot of time to accept what I truly feel inside, and honestly, finding yourself the hard way hurts like hell.

I am not the popular kid on the block, I am just an average person who thrives to be a better person everyday. When I was much younger, I was always afraid to show my feelings not because of being rejected, but because of the feeling that I will always be inadequate to the other person. I didn't realize that my self worth is low when I was young. All of the traumas, experiences and heartaches made me to be emotionally distant. It was my comfort zone.

I always fell for someone that I wouldn't have a heart to be closed with. I wouldn't even try to keep an on-going relationship, because I believe the pain would be so much, if they are the ones who would first leave me.. I didn't see and believe that I would be worthy as part of their lives. I am foolish to leave or not to try. I believe that in some ways, I still carry it but I am asking forgiveness everyday so that my wounds would not go on and hurt others.

"Time is inevitable" is the phrase I carry out in my heart. I love this phrase because time heals all wounds and reveals the right answers in its perfect time. No one can stop time to unfold and unravel life's mysteries. If things come too early in my life, there are many things that I would miss out and not understand. There are many experiences that would not happen and there are many people that would not be with me today. I would be different and life may have shown me a different path. BUT, given a chance to repeat or alter what happened in my life, I know I would not change it nor would I want to repeat it. I may have some regrets but it was all part of me, not yet forgiving myself.

I am writing this blog because I am asking forgiveness to others and for myself. I am writing about this topic because I want to share with you that by asking forgiveness, you too can have a 360 degrees perspective about life. Lastly, I am writing this blog because I wanted to have a peace in my heart in time.

I am truly sorry for not becoming a better person or not over coming or facing myself.
I now tell you, You have been part of my life and an inspiration.

As you read this blog, let us all ask forgiveness from others and through ourselves.

Handling Confidence and Fear on New Grounds

Emotions are things you must not ignore

Being Bold is to overcome emotions like confidence and fear

"Either you became confident and ignorant or afraid and deadbeat, don't!" 

 

There are types of people when settling in new grounds, it is either they are fearless and confident or afraid and shy. I have seen these kinds of people and I often assess myself, where I belong. It seems that people are born to feel these kinds of emotions and yet there is no schooling to teach you, how you should face new grounds and challenges.

Having fear is normal, it is a feeling you came across when you have uncertainty. But, always remember that fear on the new grounds is not good. Fear often takes hold of a person, it makes one weak and it makes becoming true to yourself, sometimes impossible. Fear is a prisoner where you are placed in a shell, holding you back. Overcoming it, is possible by knowing the new ground or challenges. If you are this type of person, you must take an effort to know more about the new territory and new challenge you have to face. You must learn to trust and know more about yourself. Too much can lead you to devastation and failure in coping up on new grounds of life.

On the other hand, being confident on new grounds can sometimes lead you to being ignorant. Confidence is important, but too much and not knowing where you stand on the new ground, makes you a fool. It is those people who assume and know so little about the new grounds that they take charge and bathe to their new found territory. 

Being bold to new challenges while adjusting is the best way to handle these kind of emotions. Be brave enough to face the new grounds. Understand, assess and determine where you really belong. It is like having a new found friend; you get to know them, you hold back a little, but at the same time you share and give in to understand if the relationship is worth keeping.

It is said, a person takes time to adjust to new things. New grounds can be an overwhelming experience that pushes us back or move us forward. We sometimes already have an attitude to handle such pleasure or distress coming from new grounds and experiences. Our feelings towards it determines, whether we will continue or not the new experience we felt. If we are wiser to consider and assess what really happened, I believe every new ground that we will experience will be worth keeping. We just have to be bold enough to face reality.

As I continue to experience new grounds to help me grow, I hope you’ll have fun as much as I do.

Things I do as I move forward in life

Moving Forward in Life

Things worth remembering in life as you are nearing 30

Late 20's view in life in moving forward. 

As a person nearing my 30's, there are many things in life that I wished I knew when I am still much younger. It is not to say, that I or the people nearing 30's have regrets about life- though I have some. It is just a realization as we grow much older and wiser. As some may say, "you can only understand life backwards, but you must live life moving forward".

Today, I can say that I have wasted a lot of years in my life. It was also the same reason why I am, what I am and writing this blog today. Many may tend to disagree but trials, pain and suffering would change a person to become a better version of themselves. I have felt the pits of darkness and pain, It is a burden and experience that I have carried. It is something that I don't want anyone to experience and It is something that I want everyone to avoid. Don't ever risk losing yourself!

Here are some things worth remembering:

1. Have a mentor- As you grow older, your priorities tend to grow. There are many aspects of your life you tend to ignore, not realizing it is much important as the others. We can never be an expert in every field, even though some of us tried. Learn from the experts and grab the opportunity as much as you can to learn from them.
2. Learn everyday- Always try to learn new things. As you grow older, there are many aspects of your life you need to learn and understand. Never stop learning because it never stopped when you graduated from college. Always remind yourself to be equipped with knowledge.
3. Know yourself- As things change every day, so are you. If you don’t know yourself, you can be drifted away like a wood, not knowing where you stand. The years wasted in my life are the chances that I haven’t got peace with myself. Knowing yourself early in your life makes you much wiser. Those people who have many regrets are people who often don’t know themselves.
4. Seize Opportunities- Don’t wait for an opportunity. Create and seize it with confidence. Opportunities always knock and if you don’t know how to handle it, it may pass by without you even knowing it. Remember, every day is an opportunity given. Use it well!
5. Learn to Let Go- Most of us don't realize that the only way to recover is to let go and forgive. Don't be hard on your mistakes or on the world. Everything has a purpose and you will see the reasons as time pass by. It may be hard and hurting today but it will pass, just learn to forgive and accept. Answers will be delivered in its perfect time.
6. Take Care of Relationships- Not all people are meant to stay in your life. Some are just passing by, to teach, to hurt and to help you grow. Make sure that the one’s that are meant to stay are nurtured and growing up with you. Make an effort to let them know that they are important. Treat them well!
7. Live Everyday- Everyday is a blessing. Make sure that you always live your life. Growing up is not easy, but it doesn’t mean you have to sulk away and beat yourself to death, just by trying to live. Make things simple and enjoy your life. Have a breather! 

Move forward with life and be optimistic. Don’t ever lose yourself and be stuck because life is the greatest miracle, anyone can give you. It is a blessing and a curse, if you don’t know how to be prepared

As I move forward with life, I hope you also do it.   

Sweets and Suffering- Hand by hand- Tips to Overcome Difficulties

Hungry Taz...

Sweets are a true pleasure and a fun time for me. It keeps my energy boosted and my moods to be happy... I guess it is safe to say that there is something about it that that makes me smile.

I can recall great  memories about cupcakes and sweets, when I was much younger than I am now. These energy boosters help me to go on and on in some routine tasks that I had at our house.
Cleaning, polishing and other tasks at home was boring before but i got through it because of the sweets and rewards... When I was much younger, I thought I am being punished and it is a suffering, but now it is much different on how I perceive sweet rewards and suffering.

Now, I believe that suffering can only be possible if you let them to be, and sweet rewards are just things that you enjoy for a time. If people would ask me about my suffering, the lists would go on and on, while for rewards I can only think of a few. Maybe that is why they say that pain is a pleasure you just didn't get along.

I don't know why I can't remember so many things about rewards. Maybe the reason of it is because, I have taken for granted the small rewards in my life. Sometimes, rewards became meaningless, if it was being taken for granted-- It is the same for suffering, it can be no longer a suffering once, one got used to it.

For this reasons, I want to share some tips to overcome suffering or difficulties in life.

1. You are not defeated, though it may be you think you are
2. By the help of God you can overcome difficulties and live a vital and victorious life. Never settle for less. When the full strength potential within you is mustered, you have sufficient power to deal with any difficulty.
3. Think Big, and powerful forces are released
4. Believe Big; faith and effort generate dynamic creative power
5. Pray Big; God will grant big things if you ask for them and are big enough to receive them.
6. Act Big; only the biggest plans are easy.

Boxing is Fun- A tip to beat the blues

Who say's working out must be tiring and boring??? My way of having fun is through, Boxing my way out on stress. It's simply enjoyable and energizing, once your body gets in tuned with all the jab and punches that you can throw. 

I just started again to enroll at Energy Revive beside Pure Gold, San Pablo City and I can feel my old self regaining my health and positivism in life. It is one of my medications to beat the blues away. I box 3- 4 times a week and I spent 3 hours a day at the gym-- I make sure all will be worth it.

I love doing their program because I really sweat and I can take many rounds on heavy bags, enbowl, mitts and other boxing equipments. Instructors are very nice and supportive-- because of it I am finally throwing good punches and jabs. I really recommend boxing because all of your lower and upper body parts are working. Stamina is very vital and I can feel myself having more every time I go out for another session.

Here are some tips to take the blues away just as I found boxing, writing, drinking coffee and hanging out with friends my way to stay a tuned with myself. 

10 TIPS TO BEAT THE BLUES AWAY!
1. Having a good cry- It is therapeutic to vent emotions by giving way to grief and accepting comfort from others.
2. Be good to yourself- Know your limits and happiness by practicing and knowing it everyday makes one blues away.
3. In despite of everything you feel down and can't shake the blues away; have time for yourself or bond with others. It's either you need a break from yourself or you need someone to turn to.
4. Realize you are not alone- Even yourself must accept that whatever you are going through there are always people around you to help.
5. Plan a course of action- Try to solve your problems and follow necessary steps till you improved.
6. Seek Help- Comfort from others and advice from others may it be professional or not will help you to stay in touch and look forward on something everyday. Confession to people is good for the soul and mind.
7. Follow a course of regular exercise even if its walking in a park
8. Break the habit of isolating yourself by renewing an interest in something- music, coffee breaks, movies, conversation
9. Join and Mingle- may it be organizations or just a fun run
10.  Write down your dreams or anything that can help you share what you truly feel. You can blog it on the net or have a personal journal so you can keep it private. 

REMEMBER: Find yourself a habit or activity to boxed your way out to the blues

Self Control is my part of Gambling for Fun

I had my own share of experiences where I found gambling a new way to have some fun and excitement. It is not everyday that I play this kind of game but my heart pounds with excitement while playing different kinds of gambling game. 


I can be usually seen playing gambling at the PAGCOR Tagaytay, Resorts World Casino or at the St. Joseph Compound. I have a set of friends where we find gambling for fun and sometimes a source of income to have our wallets supplied with money.

There are few games that I play: Baccarat, Pontoon, Sic-Bo, Casino Wars, Tong- its and In- Between. I find Pontoon and Baccarat the most enjoyable of all. Luck, patterns and cleverness while playing this kind of games is the most vital essentials. You must never underestimate or over estimate the cards for chances are you can end up loosing a lot of money. 


Most of the time I gamble, I only call it quits. I seldom loose a lot of money but I have an experience where I loose an amount as much as Php 10,000 (I'm just a small player at gambling) . It was a bad experience and as I recall it was the end of the habit of betting large amounts. I now only play Php1,000- 2,000 and don't go any further with that amount for self control is taking over me. 


WARNING: Gambling can be addicting 

Self Control is the thing that one can learn from gambling. One must know when to stop so you won't loose to much in playing. In my own terms of self control in gambling, I do have one but in other things relating to self control I find myself loosing myself. I don't have much of it in my system.... It is a habit that I want to learn more. It is something one must practice in areas where you find yourself tempted. 


As I understand my self control, I sometimes seek where I lack and where I excel. My self control often arise when I feel too much excitement and too much tiredness. It is an extreme of everything. It is something one must practice and balance. It is either you eliminate that kind of habit you can't control or you practice yourself with it. 


One must know what kind of self- control they have in different situations. Experience and events can teach a lot of things to know what kind of control you have. Always believe that you have one and you can manage yourself in every situation because part of self- control is loosing fun and having fun. Just remember that self control is not just by not loosing yourself it is sometimes define as knowing your self more of how in control you can be in every situation.


As I believe, Always have fun because part of living is loosing your self but having control over it.